Tag: family

Pieces of Stewart

The following is the text of what I said at my brother’s memorial service. My siblings and I carry little pieces of Stewart in our hearts and in the way we live our lives. Each of us reflects Stewart in little ways. Today I… Continue Reading “Pieces of Stewart”

A New Notepad

It became a theme. A legal pad with only a few pages written upon. When I found the first few of these on his kitchen table, I laughed and commented to his friend, “I can’t believe he only uses a few pages on each… Continue Reading “A New Notepad”

The Receiving Line

One by one they took my hand. “I’m Sally, Stewart’s sister,” I would say.  Then they would tell me their name and how they knew Stewart. From the food bank. “I volunteered with Stewart at the food bank. We could always count on him.”… Continue Reading “The Receiving Line”

Ash Wednesday

It was an ominous way to begin Lent. An early morning phone call let me know that my oldest brother, Stewart, had passed away from a heart attack. And I stood in the kitchen, and I stared at the wall And I prayed for… Continue Reading “Ash Wednesday”

The Teakwood

Where did you spend your happiest memories with your loved one? Before all this, of course, were there special places you lived or traveled to that you can look back on and feel good about? I forget how the topic came up.  The way… Continue Reading “The Teakwood”

Scary Travels with Alzheimer’s

What is one of the scariest situations you have been in because of dementia? Let’s face it — dementia can be a scary thing, for everyone involved.  Every time I see another news story about someone with dementia wandering off, my stomach tightens.  There,… Continue Reading “Scary Travels with Alzheimer’s”

Six Ways to Anywhere

What was the first indication you had that something was not right?  Was it a peculiar behavior or a specific incident? My mother always knew six ways to anywhere.  And the rest stops along the way.  And the quality of the bathrooms at the… Continue Reading “Six Ways to Anywhere”

Other Duties As Assigned

Last night (and the night before) Laurel said to me as she went to bed, “I’m sorry if I come in.”  Sometimes she wakes up in the middle of the night with a bad dream and comes in our room. “It’s okay,”  I told… Continue Reading “Other Duties As Assigned”

Knowing My Name

“You’re the lady with the dog,” a woman said to me at church the other day. “The dog with the fish?”  I responded, half-questioning, half completing her sentence. “That’s right,” she said excitedly. Our dog is famous around Greene.  She carries a toy, usually… Continue Reading “Knowing My Name”

The Twilight Zone

(This was originally published on Facebook on July 9, 2010) I think Rod Serling, the creator of The Twilight Zone, must have had some experience with a person suffering from Alzheimer’s. Some days, here in Cooperstown, that’s all I can think about – The… Continue Reading “The Twilight Zone”