My youngest daughter is faced with a challenging decision. She and her current roommate are moving into a new apartment. It’s two bedroom, two bath, but one of the bedrooms has a bath attached while the other bedroom would use the common bathroom.
“The one with the private bath is clearly the better one,” she told me. “How do we choose who gets it?”
Draw straws? Flip a coin?
One of her sisters suggested they each bid on the room. How much more would they be willing to pay for the room with the private bath? Later, though, she said that would kill their friendship. Both girls would feel resentful — one for the privacy, the other for the money.
I asked dilemma-daughter again the other day. “Did you figure it out?”
“No,” she said sadly. “This is so hard!”
And yet I think we both know that if this is the hardest decision she has to make in her life, her life will have been pretty easy.
It’s less about making the right decision, and more about being able to sit with whatever decision is made. She will have another hard decision next week, next month, next year. Another opportunity to move on and not second-guess.
I think that’s called living.
This is my post for Stream of Consciousness Saturday, where the prompt was “Straw.”
It’s been a while since I’ve participated in this weekly prompt, but I’m trying to get those creative juices flowing again.
Hot Dogs and Marmalade 
I like the bid on the room idea- I have lived in that situation before and never really even gave it a second thought, my bath was in the hall- my friends would use my bath, and my roommate’s friends would use hers.
I lived in a situation like that, too, and didn’t really think about it. My daughter is probably over-thinking, but it’s a good exercise, weighing all the options, etc.
It’s a tough first big decision. But as you said, life is going to throw more at her
Bathrooms have been known to test even the strongest of relationships. Marriages have failed over less. Good luck to them both!
Interesting dilemma. This does seem like the sort of thing that would make a small difference in the rent paid.
Being an adult is so hard 💜💜💜
Hehe! I agree this is definitely a first world problem! I’m sure they will figure it out….
this is why I live alone.