Blessed are the Calm
the ones who keep their head
and assess the situation,
for they will be able to make a plan
where chaos reigns.
As the smell of baking bread
permeates the house,
so the aura of a calm person
can soothe those around them
in times of turmoil.
Recently my brother-in-law had an unfortunate interaction with a chainsaw. He was cutting wood a short distance from his house when the chainsaw hit a knot and kicked back into his face.
Dazed, he walked back to the house. My sister-in-law looked out the window and saw him coming, his face buried in the crook of his arm. She saw the blood on his shirt and thought, “Oh dear, he has a bloody nose.”
Their daughter was outside. She looked at her father and immediately called, “Mom! Come quick!”
My sister-in-law is a nurse and used to work in a NICU. She hurried down and asked her husband to take his hand away from his face so she could see what had happened. He did.
“Okay,” she said, and smiled sweetly. “Put your arm back up there,” she told him.
As she told the story to me, she added, “I knew it was important that I stay calm and upbeat. I didn’t let him know how terrible it looked.”
They called 9-1-1.
“Wouldn’t it have been faster for you to just drive him to the hospital?” I asked.
“I was worried he would go into shock,” she replied.
A calm head. A calm assessment. A calm plan.
A few days after the accident, they sent out an “after” picture — meaning after the reconstruction and the gazillion stitches. We passed the phone around the dinner table and looked at the photo, everyone having the same reaction — a nod, and a it’s-not-that-bad.
Bud asked to see the “before” picture, and his brother sent it to him.
When Bud got it, he asked me, “Do you want to see it?”
“Uh — no,” I told him. “You can’t unsee things.”
He looked at the photo.
“Good choice,” he said to me.
My sister-in-law stayed calm after seeing the “before.” It helped everyone, from her husband and daughter, to the volunteer ambulance crew.
Blessed indeed are the calm.