A monk ought not to inquire how this one acts or how that one lives.
Questions like this take us away from prayer and draw us on to backbiting and chatter.
There is nothing better than to keep silent.
Thomas Merton, Wisdom of the Desert
Q is for Questions
Hot Dogs and Marmalade 
And to be able to be silent with someone without discomfort is valuable.
Oh my goodness — yes!
Very wise.