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Saturday Blather that dips into controversy

In case anyone wonders, I took down the Dormasha I had written for the W3 prompt. Even though it was based on a front desk conversation, it was too dark. I often process hard things through writing, but I’m learning that I don’t necessarily need to share them here 🙂

The truth is that most of the material I get for any of my writing is from front desk conversations. I have met some of the most interesting people just through the slow building of relationship by daily greeting people and asking how they’re doing.

Yesterday, a young man who comes to swim, and who has been telling me bits of tidbits about his family and job, leaned on the counter and asked me if I had read the news about where he works. I had not. So he told me why his place of employment had made the front pages.

I told him that I often avoid the news. “Depending on what news source I go to, I feel like I’m in two totally different countries,” I said.

“It’s the politics of teams,” he replied. “Politicians used to be the people who could work out compromises, but now it’s sport. It’s the Yankees vs the Red Sox.”

He couldn’t have picked a better rivalry. The Yankees and Red Sox have spent the better part of a century vilifying each other.

“We don’t look for common ground anymore,” he continued. “Take gun control…” and my mind immediately wandered off to Wyoming.

Honestly, I don’t remember what he said next. I had lived for a time in Wyoming, though, and people there take their gun rights pretty seriously.

I thought about them. I thought about the time we house-sat for a guy who had a ranch, and he had told us about the gun in the hall closet, in case … I don’t remember … coyotes? He failed to tell us, however, about the arsenal in the spare room, or the loaded handgun in the nightstand of the room we had put our young son to sleep in — thank God, I checked that drawer!

In upstate New York, the gun owners that I know are responsible and safe. Primarily, they hunt deer.

I don’t personally own a gun or want to own a gun — and I actually don’t want to enter the whole debate.

After talking with the guy who brought it up — and he had headed off for the pool — one of the custodial staff walked by. I knew he was really big into gun rights with tattoos that bear witness to his strong beliefs.

“How do you feel about background checks?” I asked him, and was surprised to hear that he really wasn’t that far off from the other man. And he was very knowledgeable and well-spoken on the topic.

Can I just stop here and say — this is why stream-of-consciousness writing produces blather in me. I write myself into a hole. I wanted to tell you that I get my material for posts from conversations I have — and now I’ve just stepped into controversy — but I’m going to leave it here because Stream of Consciousness.

Here’s some safer blather — three times a week, this little guy comes in wearing a backpack that’s bigger than his torso. He was chattering up a storm yesterday about school.

“How old is he?” I asked the mom.

“He’ll be three in a few weeks,” she said. “He’s very excited about school because he watches his brother get on the bus every day.”

It made me smile.

I think I’ll just leave you with that.

12 thoughts on “Saturday Blather that dips into controversy

  1. Hi, Sally!

    Sorry for my delay in responding to your email (I less online during the Jewish Sabbath). I read your dormasha, and it’s totally fine to share, from my perspective, even though, yes, it’s just about as dark as writing gets, and it’s darker than I expected.

    But I don’t entirely understand it – is the guy who cleaned everything up (in your dormasha) judging the guy who had an award named after him? Like – he thinks that what that well-known guy did to himself is immoral? Is that what he was saying?


    David

    1. The suicide happened over 30 years ago. The guy telling me the story was still angry and referred to the act of suicide as the most selfish thing a person could do. It wasn’t immoral as much as selfish — and year after year, he is remembered for his selflessness through involvement with youth sports.

      1. Wow; I understand the idea and agree with it to some extent, but to feel so strongly and unforgivingly about it?

        People have all sorts of issues and mental challenges – who knows what that man was going through when he killed himself? I know I am not one to judge.

  2. I did not smile and nod. Mostly I listened.

    What prompted the conversation was that it was the day after the annual award ceremony — which is a pretty big deal in our little community. The guy telling me the story would have a been shoo-in any year for the award. He’s kind, sincere, hard-working. I think I expressed surprise to him that he hadn’t gone to the award ceremony and that’s what sparked what he said.

    Honestly, I had never heard his perspective or thought about that perspective. In that moment, I ached for this man who had had to clean up what no one should ever have to clean up. Clearly it had scarred him deeply.

    The whole thing is so sad. While the community annually mourns the man who took his own life, nothing is ever said of the one who cleans up the mess.

  3. I love to see the excitement from the little ones regarding school…and I wonder how long that excitement will last once they are enrolled 💞

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